Dr. John Gottman and researchers at the University of Washington have come up with what they call “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse,” which they say can predict the end of a pairing with 93% certainty.
The four indicators are:
- Criticism –This is not the same as feedback, instead it isn’t constructive and usually focuses on things like personality, character, or interests, where as feedback deals with a specific action or behavior you’d like to see changed.
- Contempt – This involves comments specifically designed to insult, or show disrespect towards someone. Often it derives from a lack of interest in another person, so the experts suggest trying to find some common ground to keep your interest.